General


We are all settling into the new routine. It still seems very busy but it is manageable and so far things are running smoothly. Hats off to those of you that do this 5 days a week.

Work is going really well. I still haven’t got over the novelty of having 8 hours to myself. Having to concentrate on something is actually enjoyable and then getting paid is a bonus. Going into the office that first week was pretty tiring. I picked a great week to start with company massage day and company lunch falling on the days I was in. Sitting in a massage chair at work gave me plenty of time to reflect on just how different life is in downtown Toronto. One day a week is definitely enough for me. Last week I hit company bagel breakfast day. I forgot how enjoyable eating is when you’re at work. Again, I’m glad I’m at home away from temptation for most of the week!

All three girls are adjusting really well to daycare. I have worked everything so that the girls still go to preschool 3 days a week. Claire is there 3 full days and from all reports is happy, but not eating or napping much. Nothing shocking there although it is nice to have someone who understands my frustration. There are 2 other little girls there part time who are around Claire’s age which is really nice.

Emma and Leah are doing well. They are growing up before our eyes and ready for school. We are probably going to keep them in preschool this summer just to keep things smooth for September. Emma has been quite defiant lately and she can be a challenge. She’s picked up some nasty habits like flat out refusing to do things and saying she won’t when you press her, sticking her tongue out at us, and the topper - saying na na na na boo boo. Man it’s grating. We are on top of it but it is very challenging to not lose my temper sometimes. It’s also nice to see that she can push my buttons when I thought no one would ever reach Leah status. Leah is happy go lucky these days. She is still highly emotional but now she just says she’s upset, or frustrated, or sad. She’s on top of all her emotions and she keeps us all informed. It’s hard not to laugh when she says things like “This is terrible. I’m upset at you.” Thankfully her happy times are just as intense.

They are fighting more these days like friends rather than siblings and I suspect some of it is stuff they pick up from school. One of them saying that they are bigger can send the other into a state of disaster or start them screaming that no, they are bigger. Again it is grating. They are also very kind to each other and Claire. They genuinely do things now to make the other one happy like sharing clothes. Even Leah gives up her favourite things and lets Emma borrow them.

Emma’s dress and hair obsession has reached a new high. Every day she tries to weasle her way into a dress. It kills me. I don’t understand how she doesn’t see that she looks way cuter in jeans and a sweatshirt. For the most part we are indulging her but I am going to have to start being more selective about what makes its way into her closet. Sorry Emma - you outgrew all the dresses…

We are now fully entrenched in the Disney vault and their imaginations have been captivated. They are always role playing and making up stories. Claire is always included either as Lucifer from Cinderella or Flounder from The Little Mermaid. I’m pretty sure she actually responds to both names. The old Disney movies are interesting. It amazes me how a movie like Bambi, which is mostly music, ever captivated children. It is a pretty telling sign of how far thngs have progressed (or maybe regressed). Yeah, not a big fan of Disney. Oh I almost forgot, the girls now want to go to Cinderella’s castle. They’ve told me it’s in Florida near Granny and Grandpa’s house. Maybe in a few years.

Until next time,
Evil Stepmother

On April 16th it will be 4 years since I was taken off work to incubate. I had 7 weeks to myself and then my new job began. It has been the most challenging job I have ever had. I’m not sure I was truly meant to be a stay at home mom but I wanted the best for them and when the girls were preemies, and Claire was an infant, that was me. My idea of what it was all about was not at all what it turned out to be…and I knew it wasn’t all donuts and Oprah. I have reached levels of frustration I never thought possible before I had three little ones. I have dreamed about quitting and getting a day job but then I’d come back to reality and realize we weren’t ready and that my ‘work’ was finally paying off in ways I could actually see and believe for myself.

I was also lacking on ideas on what I wanted to do when I went back to work which didn’t help. I have no desire to do what I used to do. I just don’t think it would work with our family. I needed a job I could do from home or close to home and I wanted to work part time, be home at a decent time and most of all not mess up the girls’ lives because I couldn’t hack staying at home with them. Pretty big dreams.

So back in January I started a part time technical writing course. I figured it could be a career that could work for me with my experience. The plan was for me to do the course over the next year and then look for a job that met as much of my criteria as possible. And then a job fell in my lap, with all my criteria. I would be stupid to turn it down.

I start tomorrow. It’s three days a week and very flexible. I will work from home 2 days and go into Toronto on the third. The girls are going to go to the neighbour (who I have been watching watch kids for nearly 3 years now). On the days I work at home I will continue to take Leah and Emma to preschool. The other two days a week I will be home with them.

I am really excited about this. I feel a bit guilty about how excited about it I am but then I think that this will make me a better parent. I need a break and I truly believe all three of them will be fine without me - particularly because home care allows them to stay together. If I didn’t believe that I wouldn’t do it. John’s parents are here this week so I can focus on my first week and not worry about how the girls are adjusting. The true test starts next week.

 I have a whole different perspective going back into the working world - particularly since my job will have to end when I’m back on mom duty. I really hope I like it.

Claire didn’t eat in the night last night. First time she’s done that since birth! She did wake up once in the night but I managed to settle her. She was restless after 6am but I wouldn’t give in to being tired and we got up and she had toast and fruit.

It’s progress but I’m not silly enough to think it’s going to be the end of waking up in the night for food.

From the pictures you can probably tell we spent Easter in Windsor at John’s parents. John, Claire and I left on Sunday. Leah and Emmaspent the week with Nana and Papa and will be back in time for school this afternoon. We’ve talked to them everyday on the phone and they definitely do not miss us. They’ve had a packed social calendar with lots of visiting, a trip to a restaurant geared towards kids and tea parties, and Grandparents that played along with their 10th birthday and made them a cake!

Back in Oakville things have been very peaceful. John took Wednesday off and we ploughed through some list items. Claire has been really enjoyable. People keep on asking me if she misses her sisters…while I think she’ll be thrilled to see them, I don’t think she is missing them all that much. She has been following us around a lot more. It’s been nice to have a week with just her.

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March Break Snow storm (we can see grass now!)

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St Patrick’s Day

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Emma is all about making silly faces when she sees the camera.

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Blowing (and catching) kisses

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Closing their eyes and waiting for the egg hunt to start.

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Silly faced family

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The beloved Jeff and Stevie

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Buds

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Claire on Bert

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Easter bath

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Trying out their flowergirl dresses. Yes, they were all over this.

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Bunny Claire

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Bunny Leah

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Claire trying out Leah’s bed

Late as usual.

Hair:
Getting longer. Still pretty straight. Not as red.

Teeth:
No more.

Eating:
She spent most of her 13th month sick so the eating was pretty dismal. We thought we’d reached a new low when she’d only drink milk and eat bread. Then she got the flu and went off absolutely everything for a few days. She definitely lost weight - just not in her cheeks!

Sleeping:
She had a hard time sleeping with her cold and then she had a hard time sleeping through the dry heaving. It was a rough month on the sleep front but it settled down near the end. She started going longer at night and we had the first of one bottle nights.

She is going to bed after 7 and sleeping in her crib (in our room) until we go into bed. She is a ridiculously light sleeper and she wakes up most nights when we come to bed. When she was taking 2 bottles she would take one at around 11 and then another around 4. She then settled in to going back to sleep without milk and getting her bottle at around 1am. We had a couple more up for 2 hours in the middle of the night stupidity which makes us both very hesitant to even attempt to try and get her to sleep without milk. It is encouraging that she is making progress.

She gets up around 7am. Usually she wakes up (with the rest of us) when her sisters hop out of bed and come looking for someone to get them breakfast and turn on the tv.

Napping is still inconsistent. She usually only naps for about 1 hour a day. She was not so good at napping in the car.

Getting around:
This month she started walking. She hardly ever crawls anymore and she is getting quicker by the day. She also loves climbing - especially the stools we have for the girls in the bathroom. Her favourite is getting up at the counter, finding a toothbrush and brushing her teeth (yes, it is no mystery to me how the flu spread like wildfire around our house).

I am finding her walking the hardest adjustment we’ve had yet. The girls were 17 and 18 months before they walked and they knew how to listen. Claire does not listen and she could care less if you walk off without her. Combine that with her stubborn nature and we’ve had a few screeches of anger when she’s been picked up. Picking up the girls from school is much more challenging now wich Claire in tow.

Fun things she’s doing:
-running away giggling when you come after her
-waving her finger and saying no no no no
-sticking her tongue in and out over and over again and giggling
-finding stuff we ask her to get
-pointing to things she remembers in her book
-playing more with Emma and Leah as an actual participant
-refusing to drink out of a straw cup/nuby cup/sippy cup
-kissing and hugging us
-colouring and drawing when I let her. She can get the lids off the crayola markers no problem.
-throwing a ball
-getting everyone’s shoes from the front door and putting them on
-helping me get her dressed by giving me her arms etc. Trying to put clothes on herself (socks/shirts).
-she’s added a couple new dance moves now that she can walk
-riding the ride on toys/fillnig up the shopping cart (we have another hoarder…)

Personality:
She continues to be very easy going. She adapts well to new situations and new people. She is happiest when there are other kids around.

She is still very stubborn and we have seen her temper when we take stuff away. She can do the going limp and screaming thing and I just gently put her on the floor and walk away. She is also very persistent and will do things over and over again even though you tell her to knock it off.

She’s still very sweet and a big Mom suck which is nice for me. She has perfected MOMMY as well as the whiny tone. I can start to see what it’s goign to be like once she really gets in on the action with her sisters. We will be busy!

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I’m almost scared to write about this.

 It’s been a long week. After my last post Claire barfed some more…and then some more. By morning she was laying in bed (beside John who was now puking) staring at the ceiling. I called the doctor and took her in just to be sure. He checked her for all the awful things that could be wrong with her and said as long as I could get her to perk up and drink she’d be fine.

Slowly throughout the week everyone recovered. Leah was back at school on Wednesday and Claire was able to go into nursery on Thursday. Call me a bad mother but I enjoyed having two hours off from her. She’s learned how to really hug with this illness and has also turned the MAAAAMMMMMMMIIIII calling up a notch.

I admit we let out guard down. I was out last night and when I walked in the door John was running up the stairs and I could hear Claire crying through the monitor. I took my coat off and got upstairs just in time for her to Stand by Me barf in John’s face. Poor thing although John has a really hard time with vomit and I did start laughing at one point because he had a chunk in his eyebrow. As payback, Claire proceeded to overflow her diaper on me. I should just get a biohazard sticker for our front door.

She started dryheaving about 15 mins later and I thought for sure she was taking another turn but she fell asleep and stayed that way for 5 hours. She woke up fine and has been fine all day. We were full of dread in the night. We dropped the 3 of them off with Drew and Jen yesterday and went to the movies. On the way home (4:30pm) Emma fell asleep. She did not wake up and we put her to bed. She got up at 7am this morning. I thought for sure she was going to start throwing up again but she’d fine.

So there’s our week. It was great. I will always remember it.

So for the first time in a long time I was sick all by myself. Yesterday I threw up, slept, and threw up some more. I pretended I was better so John could go to basketball and then passed out again the minute he came home.

I woke up this morning feeling 75% better and had time to wash my face before Claire’s stomach emptied on our bed. She had a rough day and threw up (dry heaved) every 30 mins until 3:30pm. I got a bottle into her at 5 and was thinking we were in the clear until she threw up again at 8pm. She is sleeping now but I have decided to hold off on showering until morning because I don’t think she’s done.

Claire was not the first to puke in our bed. This all started late last week when Emma walked into our room, said she didn’t feel well and barfed all over our duvet. She rallied the next day but then spent the better part of Saturday asleep.

Leah was on a downhill spiral yesterday and I kept her home from preschool today. She’s puked twice so far. She can’t seem to work out getting to the toilet which is unfortunate. On the plus side, John now knows we own a mini carpet cleaner!

On a side note it is very interesting bringing only one of your children to school and saying the other one most likely has the flu and won’t be attending today. Emma had a great time without Leah and told her all about her day. Leah told her how she’d thrown up and how it had been yellow…her favourite colour!

Hopefully the worst is behind us now and that for John’s sake this is a girl thing.

Sometime after 5pm last night Claire decided she wanted to walk. For 2 hours she walked, fell down, got back up again, and walked some more. She even kept on walking when I got the camera out. Here is what all the video looks like from my previous attempts to catch her in action…

 

You can tell by the next video that she’s no rookie at this walking thing. Her arms are down - I think she was just too stubborn to be caught on video doing the wobbly arms up monster walk.

 I got the date wrong in the video. I am so tired. Claire is sick and all three girls have been getting up ridiculously early. Kathleen was up for the weekend and Emma and Leah got a kick out of having their very own teacher. Yesterday was the first ever Family Day holiday so thankfully this week is a short one for John.

And here’s one of Emma making her laugh…

As tedious as I find these updates, I know someday I will appreciate them.

Hair:
Their hair is slowly getting longer. I am not going to cut it again until it has the chance to get long. They have started letting me put it in ‘bunches’ and will tolerate some hair clips although they usually pull them out and lose them. Emma is always talking about my hair and wants hair like mine. Her hair is darkening up again this winter but it is still gold and I now have my doubts that it will ever be really dark. Leah’s hair isn’t as curly as Emma’s and it looks longer. Her hair is dark but it has a lot of red in it. I have started using adult shampoo/conditioner on them and I find their hair much more manageable. They both like it when I blow dry their hair and Leah’s has expressed interest in the flat iron…

Teeth:
They are getting much better at brushing their teeth. John got them Cinderella and Arielle electric toothbrushes and they have been a big hit. At Halloween they learned about getting holes in their teeth from eating too much candy and the idea has stuck with them and they rarely protest anymore.

Sleep:
I had them napping again in the summer but they were going to bed later and later. The week before school started we took away their naps completely, It was a rough week but they quickly settled into a new fall routine and a 7pm bedtime. They actually started going to sleep pretty quickly which made a huge difference in everyone’s life - especially Claire because she was able to go to bed in peace. John and I got some evening downtime again for the first time in months.

Things were going well and they were sleeping til 7:30am pretty consistently and then the clocks changed and it all broke. They started getting up before 6 and only recently have they started occasionally sleeping past 7am again. We put a digital clock in their room and told them they could not come out til 7am. We have messed with it but only by 30mins.

Toilet:
They night trained by accident one night when John forgot to put pullups on them. With the night training came screams of “I HAVE TO GO PEE” in the wee hours of the morning. It was tempting to pull up train them again but instead we stopped letting them take sippy cups to bed. It worked well. Every once in awhile we get woken up with “I’M THIRSTY” but it’s not that often.

I don’t remember the last time they had an accident. They go at school and the Y no problem.

In December we had issues with Leah holding her poop again. Thankfully we have  learned enough about that child’s bowels that we can fix her if we’re patient. I need to send a letter to Senokot with my appreciation of their product!

Eating:
Emma has turned into a very good eater. She likes a wide variety of fruits and vegetables in addition to meat, bread and dairy. Although Alphaghetti is hands down her favourite food, it is not hard to get a well balanced diet into her.

Leah on the other hand is really bad at fruits and vegetables. Her hands down favourite is…tuna. She has gone off bananas and lately will only eat applesauce. She will eat baby carrots and corn without fuss. The other stuff is deemed ‘yucky’ or ‘disgusting’ and there is lots of resistance. I try my best not to fight with her about it but I will admit it is really, really frustrating. While Emma is a good eater, if Leah declares her dinner disgusting, Emma usually agrees out of some twisted sisterly love. And then Claire refuses to eat. Those are the fun nights. I have bought a book on adding pureed vegetables to everyday cooking and I am getting some of it into them.

The are getting good at eating the main course and for the most part they eat what we eat.

Language/Imagination:
They can express pretty much whatever they want now. Sometimes they still get caught in the crying/screaming stupidity but they quickly recover when I remind them that I’m not listening til they use their big girl voice.

All our focus on manners has paid off and they are good at saying please, thank you, pardon me, and excuse me when they want someone’s attention. They are still working out that excuse me doesn’t mean instant attention.

Their imaginations are really fun these days. They make up stories and role play. They still prefer playing with each other over their toys. Their best stories come when you ask them what the dream about. Emma in particular gets very animated when she tells a story and feeds off your reaction. It’s pretty cute.

Getting Around:
 I wanted to write my dad’s observation that Emma runs like an athlete and Leah runs like a girl. Amusing but accurate.

The drop in they go to at the Y is usually gym time. They have a bouncy castle, mazes, all sorts of sports stuff, trikes, scooters etc, etc etc. It’s all about running around and I think it has been great for burning off winter energy. It has also been good for Leah and in watching her I notice that she is much more confident and coordinated than she was when she started.

Independence:
Emma is miss independent unless she’s in a needy mood. She can dress herself, go to the bathroom herself and always wants to try everything out herself before she wants help.

Until very recently Leah was happy enough having everything done for her. She would dawdle getting her coat on knowing I would just do it for her in the end because we needed to go. Recently she has started to want to do things herself.

Personalities:
I just read what I wrote when they were 3 and not much has changed.

The one big change since they were 3 is that they now hang out with kids their own age 4-5 times a week. Preschool has done wonders for them. While Emma had a really rough start, she has adjusted fine and overcome a lot of her shyness in new situations or around bigger kids. Just the other day one of her teachers was saying that Emma will now sit beside the little boy that tackled her and she has even told me that he was her friend. The thing that I was most proud of her for was that once I told her that the little boy didn’t have words and was just frustrated she accepted that and even started defending him when Leah called him naughty.

They have both done well adjusting to their teachers. I was worried that Leah might have a hard time with authority but after her I only want a yellow cup stupidity she has settled down and now understands that isn’t how it works. They love all their teachers but Erika is their favourite.

School has also introduced them to the concept of friends beyond each other. They were both quite taken with two little boys in their class but one of them stopped going after xmas so now they have both settled on one little boy. According to the little boy’s mom he talks about them all the time. He lives right up the street from us and I’m sure we’ll have to have him over soon. When I found out he lived near us I remember Leah trying to convince her blind mom she’d seen him across the street on Halloween night and me humouring her…

They both seem to have a thing for older boys and they can get quite silly about it. They laugh and giggle and hang on every word. We don’t really play with many older girls so I’m sure (this is what I tell John) that it is just an older kid thing!

Playing/sharing:
For the most part they play really well together. Considering they are always together, they don’t fight all that much and are never ‘mad’ at each other for more than 1 minute. I find the biggest problem is that as they get older I have a harder and harder time listening to them fight. Growing up pretty much an only child I have no experience with just how easy it is to push your sibling’s buttons. It makes me want to scream. I can’t even imagine what it will be like when Claire gets in on it.

We’ve let them have princess stuff and they do spend somedays in costume. I refuse to get the shoes and they both improvise by walking around on their toes because they have ’shoes with sticks at the back’

We aren’t doing as many crafts at home since they do them at school. Both girls love to colour and they can now draw simple pictures. I need to scan more of their drawings since the detail is different with each passing week. They know all their letters and can spell their names and write words if I tell them the letters. We have started working on sounding out simple words and they are starting to learn some words by sight.  

They can count no problem and are ok with number recognition but the interest isn’t there just like it wasn’t with letters awhile back. I now just accept that they won’t learn something until they want to and it’s not worth the frustration of trying to teach them. They can do simple math if it involves treats or timbits- they know if they each get two how many I need to order and then can figure out how many if I wanted two etc. See what I mean about motivation ;)

They know all their colours and have picked up (maybe at school) that you can mix colours to get new colours. They know all the days of the week (and which days their daddy stays home) as well as the months that have passed since they’ve been in school. They have learned quite a bit at school and should be well prepared for kindergarten. Did I mention that I enrolled them…and that I’m separating them?

And thanks to Dora they know their colours, can count to ten and know quite a few new words…all in spanish. I’m sorry that I was mean to you Dora. I should have been more focused on Disney.

That’s all I can think of for now. There’s lots more but I’ll just get this up so it’s not forgotten!

Another one from before Christmas. Claire giggling away.

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